Sunday

What constitutes an "easy" life

Caroline,

How useful as the garden analogy? Not very, I suspect, or I wouldn't be reading about your current state of irritability. Am I misreading the note?

I do feel as if I have had an easy life, it's true.

Sure, I've had my share of disappointment and frustration with my career and in my personal life heartache and heartbreak, but overall I've lived a life filled with more good and positive things than horrific, unendurable events. But I think that's because I view the experiences (once out of them), with an expectation that I will learn and grow from them. Is that too new-agey for you? To put it another way, it's about perspective.

Many women I know have faced and continue to face bigger challenges in their lives than I ever will.

Where I am preoccupied with a faltering writing career, my female friends face divorce, infidelity, disapproving spouses, emotionally-battering parents, terminally-ill spouses/; they face mounting debt to support their families whether its because they've returned to school, taken a job with more flexible hours but a cut in pay, or ave the additional financial burden of supporting special-needs, or sick kids; they are physically, emotionally, and psychologically exhausted. And I grumble because I wasn't able to commit to a freelance writing career long enough (or with enough gusto) to make it a career. I couldn't stick to it.

But that's not a life challenge, that's simply a personality defect.

It's a defect similar to the one that makes me hate 9-5. Too much of my energy has been struggling through it or trying to avoid it. Oddly, the structure of it has provided me with free time to write back to you. My return letters ought to be more regular than they have in the past.

So, no, there is no crisis in my life. So, if you are basis your definition of "an easy life" on the lack of crisis, yes my life fits the bill.